“Beyond good and evil is a place, and there we will meet.” Rumi
Communication gives many hues to the quality of our relationships. We determine these hues ourselves. Interpretation and judgment slips into our relationships and occasionally creates misunderstandings, at home, with friends or with colleagues … sometimes resulting in a loss of contact. The switch is set to ‘off’. Once we are aware of this, and learn to communicate what exists within us and what really moves us, we can reconnect. The quality of communication improves, being and/or working together takes place harmoniously. We encounter. The switch is set to ‘on’.
Marshall Rosenberg He starts from the assumption that man, by nature, strives for peace and harmony with himself, others and with his surroundings.Towards a genuine encounter, from the heart. He believes in man’s natural desire for giving and sharing with others.
From an early date on he looked for an answer to two questions, both of the essence for him:
If we by nature care for each other, how come we cause so much pain and suffering to ourselves and others?
And how is it possible that others, even in the most dire circumstances, can continue to communicate from the heart and with compassion?
The answers to these questions are the core of his body of thought: ‘how to communicate nonviolently with oneself and with others?’
Connective communication strives for connection and quality within relations. M. Rosenberg’s disarmingly simple model shows how communication can lead to connection. He encourages one to observe honestly and clearly while paying attention to one’s own feelings and needs. This allows us to state clearly what we would really like. He invites us to be equally attentive to other people’s perspectives, feelings, needs and wishes. This is the essence of connecting to oneself and to others. A good connection offers clarity and room for mutual understanding and compassion. It is an explicit invitation to take up responsibility for one’s own observations, feelings, needs and questions.
Worldwide ‘Violence is the tragic expression of unfulfilled needs’ M. Rosenberg
The CNVC (Center for nonviolent communication)was created in 1984. Its vision is:’to contribute to a world where people peacefully fulfill their needs and where people solve conflicts peacefully, in accordance with each other’s needs’. The past years a global network has come about where people, in their own way and starting from their own inspiration, contribute to a peaceful world.